I don't make New Year's resolutions because I think they are an evil trap, designed to set you up for failure and add to your "I Feel Guilty" list (which is already too damn long). But one thing I promised to myself this year was to try new restaurants with my husband. There are simply WAY too many places to eat in Los Angeles county, for us to keep going to the same familiar places week after week just because it's the first spot we think of. The ladies in my mommy group are constantly recommending restaurants that don't have cheese pizza on the menu. And a quick Google search will bring up dozens of choices.
Finally, we need to branch out! Our taste buds are screaming for more! How do I remind myself of this new goal when it's not something I normally do? With the arrival of the paycheck, a bit of dough is set aside for this tasty night. We vow to go at least once per month. It's promptly put on my calendar, his calendar, the office wall calendar, and even a random post-it note (my memory ain't that good). The added bonus to sharing these new restaurant experiences is reconnecting with my husband with some much needed alone time; time that doesn't involve a constant barrage of "eat your vegetables," "elbows off the table," "sit up straight," "don't throw your food." Actually, that does sound like my meals with my husband.
This month's designated spot: a fondue restaurant that I've been wanting to check out for a long time. I can barely contain myself. Afterall, everything taste better with cheese. And chocolate.
In the spirit of the new year and the upcoming Valentine's Day, what are you doing to enrich your relationship with your partner? When we think about the work it takes to "keep the fires going" in marriage, it almost makes this mothering thing seem easy.